Back when I was feeling much less positive about whether I would ever find the man of my dreams, or even a man I could just settle for right now, two friends of mine told me about this thing called the "love list." They said to write down 100 things you want in "the man of your dreams" or a future partner. If you write it down and put it out into the universe, so to speak, it's more likely to happen. Furthermore, by writing down these 100 things, you are accountable to yourself and responsible for making sure you get what you want. "Even if one of the things is that you want a man who wears gray socks every day, write it down." I wrote my own love list a year or two ago, and, well, I've been thinking a lot lately about the man of my dreams and what I want and who I want and how I think I am finally ready for it. My love list has been hiding in a file folder in my computer, out of sight and out of mind. I'm afraid that's one of my greatest faults, that I hide my desires and my feelings about the things I really want in a file folder inside me, out of sight and out of mind. Well, I decided to open that file tonight. Reading the list again, there are a couple of things I might change and few points I'd be willing to negotiate, but this is ultimately what I want and I figure the best thing I can do to get what I want is to put it into the universe.
1. I want a man who loves me for me.
2. I want a man who is kind
3. I want a man who is affectionate
4. I want a man who is funny
5. I want a man who thinks I am funny
6. I want a man who is loyal
7. I want a man who is honest
8. I want a man who loves dogs
9. I want a man who loves other animals too
10. I want a man who loves to play tennis
11. I want a man who wants to meet my friends
12. I want a man who is happy to spend time with my friends
13. I want a man who wants to impress my friends because he wants to impress me
14. I want a man who loves children
15. I want a man who wants to have children
16. I want a man who wants to get married
17. I want a man who has never been married before me
18. I want a man who has never had children before me
19. I want a man who has a good job
20. I want a man who enjoys what he does for a living
21. I want a man who doesn’t bring work home with him
22. I want a man who leaves past relationships in the past
23. I want a man who will dance with me at parties
24. I want a man who will hold my hand whether we’re walking to our cars or walking in a mall
25. I want a man who loves to kiss
26. I want a man who loves to cuddle
27. I want a man who is excited about pleasing me in the bedroom
28. I want a man who doesn’t mind watching my favorite tv shows
29. I want a man who loves going to movies with me
30. I want a man who loves going to the opera with me
31. I want a man who loves going to the symphony with me
32. I want a man who loves going to hockey games with me
33. I want a man who wants to walk my dog with me everyday
34. I want a man who wants to work out with me
35. I want a man who will encourage me to be healthy by being healthy with me
36. I want a man who will encourage me to exercise by exercising with me
37. I want a man who wants to be my partner
38. I want a man who wants to be my best friend
39. I want a man who will be my shoulder to cry on, when I need it
40. I want a man who will make me laugh
41. I want a man who will make me happy
42. I want a man who is happy to be with me
43. I want a man who is faithful
44. I want a man with a good sense of humor
45. I want a man who compliments me
46. I want a man who tells me how beautiful he thinks I am, inside and out
47. I want a man who tells me how happy he is to be with me
48. I want a man who enjoys the outdoors
49. I want a man who will join a volleyball team with me
50. I want a man who shows an interest in my interests
51. I want a man who will communicate with me
52. I want a man who will share his interests with me
53. I want a man with good friends who will become my good friends
54. I want a man who treats his mother like a queen
55. I want a man who has a good relationship with his father
56. I want a man who is kind to and still close to his siblings
57. I want a man who wants to make me a part of his circle of friends
58. I want a man who wants to be a part of my circle of friends
59. I want a man who wants me to be a part of his family
60. I want a man who wants to be a part of my family
61. I want a man who believes in Christianity
62. I want a man who is willing to change religions for me when we get married
63. I want a man who thinks the names I’ve always dreamed of for my kids are perfect
64. I want a man who takes care of himself by eating right and exercising
65. I want a man who is attractive
66. I want a man who is attracted to me
67. I want a man who is good looking, but isn’t too preoccupied with his looks
68. I want a man who thinks I’m good looking, but isn’t too preoccupied with my looks
69. I want a man who respects women
70. I want a man who doesn’t have a lot of baggage from past relationships
71. I want a man who loves to read
72. I want a man who is intelligent
73. I want a man who has gone to college or trade school
74. I want a man who is successful
75. I want a man who is confident
76. I want a man who makes enough money that I can stay home with our kids if that’s what I choose
77. I want a man who will support me if I decide to go back to work
78. I want a man who knows how to cook
79. I want a man who likes to travel with me
80. I want a man who believes in love
81. I want a man who believes in me
82. I want a man who I can believe in
83. I want a man who will buy me nice things just because
84. I want a man who will tell me nice things just because
85. I want a man who appreciates the nice things I do for him
86. I want a man who loves to swim in the ocean
87. I want a man who will take me camping
88. I want a man who will go camping with me and my friends
89. I want a man who will go on a long hike with me and my friends
90. I want a man who will go to parties that my friends throw
91. I want a man who will go to trivia nights with me at Humpy’s
92. I want a man who shares my love of karaoke
93. I want a man who will be there for me when I’m upset
94. I want a man who will let me be there for him when he’s upset
95. I want a man who will make me feel good about myself, no matter what
96. I want a man who I make feel good about himself, no matter what
97. I want a man who doesn’t care how much I weigh
98. I want a man who wants to be the love of my life and wants me to be his
99. I want a man who wants to go shopping with me
100. I want a man who will encourage me and support me in finding the job of my dreams
