I am kind of cheating today, but I just did a survey on Facebook that ended up being kind of fun and thought-provoking. These were the guidelines: write a note with 25 random things. Okay, there was a little more to it than that, but it involved "tagging" people who you wanted to share things about yourself with and requesting that they send 25 random things about themselves back. I can't really tag anyone in my blog (or can I? I am really new to this) so I just decided to put those 25 random things in my blog as a way to tell whoever may be reading this a little more about me.
1. I was born in Germany
2. I've lived in Germany, New Mexico, Minnesota, and Alaska
3. The first time I lived in Minnesota I was in kindergarten. The second time I lived in Minnesota I was in college.
4. When I was in kindergarten I once took a pig to school for show & tell.
5. I lived on my grandparent's pig farm for a year (can you guess what year that was?)
6. One of the greatest gifts anyone could ever give me is an iTunes gift card.
7. I hate going to bed at night. Well, hate is a strong word, but that's when I do all my personal stuff like watch TV or clean my house or walk my dog. There's always so much I want to do, not anything that's particularly important, in fact, sometimes it's incredibly lazy stuff, but it's stuff that I want to do for myself. I feel like I spend so much time at work and then sleeping that there's never enough time to do the things I want to do.
8. I just started writing a blog, which is weird because I've always thought blogs were kind of narcissistic. Now I think they're a good way to get your thoughts out, and if someone happens to read them, great. If not, oh well... or maybe I am just narcissistic.
9. I wish I could teach the world when it's appropriate to use the word "its" and the contraction "it's". Once and for all, it's always "its" unless you are using the contraction for the phrase "IT IS"!
10. I love "High School Musical." In fact, at this very moment I have iTunes set on random to play the soundtracks to all three movies.
11. In general, I want to make a career change. I don't think I want to do what I'm doing for the rest of my life... but when I hear about an exciting project someone else is working on, I get jealous and wish I could work on it too, which makes me want to stay in the business.
12. I have a reputation for being a hard worker, but I think I'm kind of lazy and I would actually rather do things the easy way or just not work at all.
13. Even though I complain about work and claim I want a job that I don't have to take home with me every night, I tend to check my work e-mail at home a lot, and end up doing quite a bit of work at home... by choice.
14. I can procrastinate with the best of them, but my preference is to just get things done so I have more time to do other things or relax.
15. I love "America Idol". If they held auditions in Alaska, I would probably try out. I would probably make it on the show as one of the people Simon mocks and turns away, but I think it would be fun to try out.
16. Every time I see a stray dog on the street I try to pick it up or stay with it until Animal Control can come pick it up. I hope that someone would do the same for me if my dog were to get loose.
17. I love the Dog Whisperer... L-O-V-E- LOVE him. I wish everyone could watch that show and understand that it's usually not the dog that's bad, but the way people treat and respond to their dogs that's bad. Even the most loving dog owners unwittingly do things that make their dogs unbalanced, which can lead to bad behavior.
18. I would love to own a doggy day care. I know it would require a lot of long hours and would entail picking up a lot of dog crap, but playing with dogs all day long... what could be better?
19. I love my friends. It makes me sad that people grow apart over time. On my part, I know I'm not always great at keeping in touch, or I isolate myself during certain times in my life, so I don't know how to stay close to people. That's something I would like to work on.
20. One day I want to get married and have kids, but I would rather never get married than end up with the wrong person.
21. If I have a girl and a boy, I want to name them Abigail and Sebastian. Please don't dissuade me from these names, and please don't steal these names when you have kids... unless you live in another state and our kids aren't around each other that often :)
22. I can't just watch a movie like a normal person. I am always thinking about how this scene was probably coordinated or how much that scene took to put together. And sometimes I actually get nervous thinking about it, as if it's something I'm going to have to deal with.
23. I've started doing daily affirmations and meditations through a website called mythoughtcoach.com. I want to be a better person, for myself, and for my friends and for my family. I truly believe in the power of positive thinking, but I know sometimes it's hard to do it on your own because it is really easy to let life get to you sometimes... so it helps me to have someone else's voice coach me through it.
24. I know people think I am overly opinionated and argumentative, but what I don't think people realize is how much time I spend replaying conversations and analyzing concepts. I might say or think something one day, then say or think something totally different another day because I have taken to heart what someone has said to me and changed my mind because of it. I really do learn a lot from other people, and I should admit it more often... but sometimes I don't know that that's what's happened because it can be such a subtle transformation!
25. It was really hard to come up with 25 things, so I am going to cheat on this last entry with a comment about how hard it was to do this.
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Now playing: High School Musical Cast - What Time Is It
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Thursday, January 22, 2009
Wednesday, January 21, 2009
Three Second Rule
As I mentioned in my last post, I recently subscribed to a website called mythoughtcoach.com . The site features a series of audio recordings by a woman named Stin who talks you through daily affirmations and meditations. The exercises are geared toward helping one achieve personal and emotional goals using the power of one's brain and positive thought.
One of the exercises that intrigues me is something Stin calls the "three second rule." According to Stin's blog (which you can link to from the mythoughtcoach.com website), "when you have a thought about anything that you have previously experienced with ANY sort of emotion or physical response, it takes about 3 seconds for that thought to initiate a physical response. That thought then becomes the trigger for a remarkable physiological process." So following the "three second rule", when you have a negative thought or emotion, don't allow yourself to dwell on it for more than three seconds; instead, change your thinking to thoughts of gratitude or a memory of something positive... basically, go to your happy place.
Yesterday, I read a post from a blog one of my friends follows and I saw something that kind of disturbed me as it was a comment encouraging someone to break the three second rule. A commenter of the blog I was reading said, "I feel like you leave some of the negative issues [about your life] off of your blog...how come?" In response, the blogger wrote that she tends to have a positive, upbeat outlook on life, and she knows that she has the choice to have a happy and energetic attitude each day when she wakes up, and that's what she chooses to do. Awesome, right?! The blogger proceeds to outline the trials she is dealing with in her life right now, some of them being health issues and money worries, etc., etc., etc.
I have not always been the kind of person who wakes up every morning with the knowledge that I can choose to be happy. I have struggled, like many people, with feelings of anger and doubt and frustration and loneliness, and sometimes those emotions have gotten the better of me and I've given into them and let them control my whole day... sometimes my whole week or month. And that's something I am working on changing in my life. That's why I use the tools provided by mythoughtcoach.com; that's why I do daily affirmations and meditations that I think will help me through certain days or obstacles or hardships. So I guess what disturbed me and upset me about reading someone's comment to this generally happy person is that somewhere out there, there is this person who does have all these issues, like many people, who already has the knowledge that it is a choice whether or not we let the negative things that happen in our life get to us... and she chooses happiness. So if she dwells on the negative things by spending 20 minutes or an hour writing them in a blog, doesn't that weaken this foundation she's built of being a happy, positive person? Sure, there's something to be said about getting things out when you're angry or unhappy or sad, but as Stin says, "You can’t always choose which thoughts will pop into your mind, but you can certainly choose which will get to stay longer than 3 seconds." I know we all have to vent somehow, but if this person has found ways to do that without writing about it to the world, even if they are her faithful readers, more power to her. I aspire to be like her. I aspire to be a happier, more positive person... I aspire to wake up every morning and choose this way of being no matter how I feel when my eyes first open... I aspire to uphold the three second rule.
One of the exercises that intrigues me is something Stin calls the "three second rule." According to Stin's blog (which you can link to from the mythoughtcoach.com website), "when you have a thought about anything that you have previously experienced with ANY sort of emotion or physical response, it takes about 3 seconds for that thought to initiate a physical response. That thought then becomes the trigger for a remarkable physiological process." So following the "three second rule", when you have a negative thought or emotion, don't allow yourself to dwell on it for more than three seconds; instead, change your thinking to thoughts of gratitude or a memory of something positive... basically, go to your happy place.
Yesterday, I read a post from a blog one of my friends follows and I saw something that kind of disturbed me as it was a comment encouraging someone to break the three second rule. A commenter of the blog I was reading said, "I feel like you leave some of the negative issues [about your life] off of your blog...how come?" In response, the blogger wrote that she tends to have a positive, upbeat outlook on life, and she knows that she has the choice to have a happy and energetic attitude each day when she wakes up, and that's what she chooses to do. Awesome, right?! The blogger proceeds to outline the trials she is dealing with in her life right now, some of them being health issues and money worries, etc., etc., etc.
I have not always been the kind of person who wakes up every morning with the knowledge that I can choose to be happy. I have struggled, like many people, with feelings of anger and doubt and frustration and loneliness, and sometimes those emotions have gotten the better of me and I've given into them and let them control my whole day... sometimes my whole week or month. And that's something I am working on changing in my life. That's why I use the tools provided by mythoughtcoach.com; that's why I do daily affirmations and meditations that I think will help me through certain days or obstacles or hardships. So I guess what disturbed me and upset me about reading someone's comment to this generally happy person is that somewhere out there, there is this person who does have all these issues, like many people, who already has the knowledge that it is a choice whether or not we let the negative things that happen in our life get to us... and she chooses happiness. So if she dwells on the negative things by spending 20 minutes or an hour writing them in a blog, doesn't that weaken this foundation she's built of being a happy, positive person? Sure, there's something to be said about getting things out when you're angry or unhappy or sad, but as Stin says, "You can’t always choose which thoughts will pop into your mind, but you can certainly choose which will get to stay longer than 3 seconds." I know we all have to vent somehow, but if this person has found ways to do that without writing about it to the world, even if they are her faithful readers, more power to her. I aspire to be like her. I aspire to be a happier, more positive person... I aspire to wake up every morning and choose this way of being no matter how I feel when my eyes first open... I aspire to uphold the three second rule.
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
Testing
This is my first attempt at a blog and I really don't know if I am going to like it or keep up with it, hence the title of the blog. Admittedly, I didn't realize I was naming the whole blog, I thought I was just naming this first "episode," but either way, the name kind of works.
I have been testing a lot of things in my life lately: I am trying out this blog thing; I recently got a Twitter account; next week I have training to become a volunteer at Anchorage Animal Care and Control; in March I'm doing a BOW workshop (Becoming an Outdoor Woman); I signed up for an account with mythoughtcoach.com and have been doing daily affirmations and meditations in the hopes of improving certain aspects of my life.
You see, the last few years I have been in a rut of sorts. I feel like I've come out of it a little from time to time, but I always seem to fall back in and I just can't figure out what I need to do to get out and stay out. I feel like I am still trying to find my place and purpose in life, the thing that makes me feel whole and if not happy, more complete or fulfilled.
At the very moment of writing that last comment, I finally realize how to express what I've been wanting all along-- I am looking for fulfillment. I don't always feel fulfilled with my job or my friendships or my relationships... or with myself. I really believe there is something out there that could give me the sense of fulfillment I am looking for, but I have been looking for it in all the wrong places, and at times, I haven't put any effort into looking for it at all.
I don't think that something like finding the right job, for instance, will give me a new outlook on life in general and make everything better. I don't think that if I change who my friends are, or jump into a relationship with a new man, that I will suddenly be fulfilled in all aspects of my life. Sure, maybe those things will be quick fixes, but I know now that if I want to achieve this feeling of completeness and fulfillment, I have to find it in myself. Once that happens, all the other stuff will fall into place. Once I am fulfilled in myself, I will have the confidence to go after the job I've always wanted or even turn something I love into a job. When I am more confident and fulfilled in myself, I will have better friendships because I will be a better friend, and I will attract the kind of man I want to be in a relationship with because I will be a more attractive person.
I am working on all that right now... testing it out as it were...
I have been testing a lot of things in my life lately: I am trying out this blog thing; I recently got a Twitter account; next week I have training to become a volunteer at Anchorage Animal Care and Control; in March I'm doing a BOW workshop (Becoming an Outdoor Woman); I signed up for an account with mythoughtcoach.com and have been doing daily affirmations and meditations in the hopes of improving certain aspects of my life.
You see, the last few years I have been in a rut of sorts. I feel like I've come out of it a little from time to time, but I always seem to fall back in and I just can't figure out what I need to do to get out and stay out. I feel like I am still trying to find my place and purpose in life, the thing that makes me feel whole and if not happy, more complete or fulfilled.
At the very moment of writing that last comment, I finally realize how to express what I've been wanting all along-- I am looking for fulfillment. I don't always feel fulfilled with my job or my friendships or my relationships... or with myself. I really believe there is something out there that could give me the sense of fulfillment I am looking for, but I have been looking for it in all the wrong places, and at times, I haven't put any effort into looking for it at all.
I don't think that something like finding the right job, for instance, will give me a new outlook on life in general and make everything better. I don't think that if I change who my friends are, or jump into a relationship with a new man, that I will suddenly be fulfilled in all aspects of my life. Sure, maybe those things will be quick fixes, but I know now that if I want to achieve this feeling of completeness and fulfillment, I have to find it in myself. Once that happens, all the other stuff will fall into place. Once I am fulfilled in myself, I will have the confidence to go after the job I've always wanted or even turn something I love into a job. When I am more confident and fulfilled in myself, I will have better friendships because I will be a better friend, and I will attract the kind of man I want to be in a relationship with because I will be a more attractive person.
I am working on all that right now... testing it out as it were...
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